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Source - http://support.apple.com/kb/HT1937
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The problem does not lie with the people hiding in shame.
It lies with the ones that shame them into hiding.
Never expect from someone what you are not willing to give.
Friends are like jewels - time and pressure reveals the true ones.
Be Your Own Best Friend.
There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth going.
Strive to get on top in life, because it's the bottom that's overcrowded.
Nothing beats a failure but a try.
Almost all our unhappiness is the result of comparing ourselves to others.
He who never makes a mistake seldom makes anything else
If you want a thing bad enough
Go out and fight for it
Work day and night for it
Give up your time, peace, and sleep for it
If it is all that you dream and scheme about
And life seems useless and worthless without it
And you'll gladly sweat, fret, and plan for it
And lose all terror of the opposition for it
If you simply go after the thing that you want
With all your capacity, strength and sagacity
Faith, hope, and confidence
And stern pertinacity
If neither cold, poverty, famine, or gull sickness
Or pain of body and brain
Can keep you from the thing you want
If doggeded and grim you beseige and besaid it
With the help of God, you'll get it.
When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to a mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn't your father, or your mother or mate
Whose judgement upon you must pass
The one whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
Some people may think you're a straight shootin' chum
And call you a wonderful guy
But the man in the glass knows you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
He's the the one to please, never mind all the rest
For he's with you clear to the end.
And you know you've passed your most dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on your back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you've cheated the man in the glass.
I read this post and I could not rest until I responded to it.
I mean no disrespect whatsoever to your friend and the misfortune he has experienced in life thus far, but I am speaking from personal experience - if he doesn't appreciate what he has today and recognize that through it all, he is still standing and he is a conqueror through some bad stuff, he will never have a "happier" life.
I say "happier" because that which made you happy yesterday no longer works today, and that which makes you happy today will not apply in the future. "Happy" is always evolving.
Your friend is mired in a "woe is me attitude." He is so focused on the bad in his life that he doesn't know how to recognize and appreciate the good in his life.
He called you and dumped all of his problems on you because he knew he could. Yes, it is wonderful to have someone you can call in the midnight hour - and he is very blessed to have you in his life - but after all he has been through, he should appreciate he still has the strength to be here to talk about it. Now, he needs to find the strength within himself to want to create the life he truly wants to live.
My first question to him would have been, "What do you want?" It would be asked in a considerate way, to help him actively engage his mind and stop wallowing in self-doubt and pain. And, I would have pressed him for a specific answer, not some nebulous response like "I want to be happy."
After he answered that question, my next one would have been, "Why?"
Things changed for me when I stopped praying for what I didn't have and started being thankful for the blessings I did have.
Your friend is going through a lot of pain and he does not know how to manage it. I read that in all we do, we are constantly pursuing pleasure and avoiding pain. One thing helped me greatly - I changed my thinking and my attitude to one of gratitude. I thanked God for the good things in my life, like having a fully functioning body with arms and legs, the ability to digest food, go to the bathroom on my own, see, hear, touch, smell, get an erection. I actually thanked God for my problems. All of them. They enable me to handle more responsibility. I once complained that my knees hurt because I had to walk everywhere since I don't have a car. Then I saw a homeless man in a wheelchair with both of his legs amputated. All that walking helped me lose 25 pounds I needed to lose. There is ALWAYS something to be thankful for, even in the midst of your lowest moments in life.
If your friend cannot find one thing in his life to be thankful for, he should ask himself "why do I want to live?" Most people will not agree with my logic, but I know this works from personal experience. When I stopped looking for external reasons to live - my mom, my nephew, my friends - and started looking for my INTERNAL reasons to live, things began to improve for me. Today, I know why I want to live, and it isn't for anyone else but MYSELF. He needs to be brutally honest with himself, because if he does not KNOW his reason for living, he will find a reason to end it.
I accepted every personal shortcoming and thanked God for those too, because I now know myself better and I can learn how to live the life I want to live. And before I knew it, those "unanswered" prayers were answered. Some of the answers I did not like, but I thanked God for the answers because once I received the answer to my prayer, I was ready to accept the truth.